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Parents Responsibility

(Source: http://www.howtostopcyberbullying.com/index-b.html)

“Cyber Bullying Is The Latest, Greatest Threat To Our Kids.”

Computers, cell phones, and the internet are becoming very important aspects of our kids’ lives. It opens up a whole new world of communication and learning tools for them, but how do we make sure that they’re safe? All this new technology has given bullies even greater power to victimize your kids. That old rhyme, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me”, wasn’t helpful to you back then, and it’s even less helpful to today’s youth still struggling to gain acceptance with friends while also having to deal with aggressive online bullying. The good news is that you don’t have to be a technology expert in order to have a working solution in place that helps both you and your kids. You are about to quickly learn everything you need to know…

 

“I’m helping today’s kids and parents tackle the growing threat of Cyber Bullying by revealing all of the important facts, all the essential tools, and my proven bully-busting strategies.”

When I first learned about this problem, I was totally shocked to find so little useful information about online bullying anywhere. Now I’ve created something very special that kids, teens and their parents can use immediately to stop cyber bullying and keep kids safe from several different kinds of internet harassment. It’s exactly the solution you need…

 

Too Many Kids & Parents Are Left hanging Without The Right Tools To Help Them Protect Their Children, allowing these attacks to get worse daily… It’s Time This Changed!

My objective here is simple… it’s to expose this secretive and dangerous threat while presenting you with everything you’ll need to successfully eliminate it. You see, today’s generation is more openly connected than any other that came before it. All thanks to the Internet and Digital Technology. Your kids understand a great deal about the internet and cell phones. They spend a large part of their day on both of these devices, maintaining a constant connection with the world. They don’t ever want to lose either one, so they expertly hide any evidence of internet bullying from you while keeping their anxieties a well-guarded secret. Unfortunately, today’s parents have far too many responsibilities to attend to and they often feel…

  • They’re no longer connecting with their kids, especially when it comes to their online activities and exchanges.
  • They’re unfamiliar with the new tools and technology that kids are spending so much time on.
  • Like most parents, they have absolutely no idea what their kids are experiencing these days.
  • They wouldn’t know exactly what to do about cyber bullying when it finally strikes their home.
  • Thanks To Modern Technology, Kids Can Now Be Cyber Bullied All 24 Hours a Day, 7 Days a Week, Instantly And Repeatedly.

 

Shockingly, 84% Of Today’s Parents Don’t Know How To Help Kids Conquer This Threat, Turning Them Into Victims As Well.

I was stunned when I heard that figure, and you might be stunned too. There’s more you should know also…

  • Recent studies have shown us that 13% of teens have already received threatening emails and text messages.
  • Over 15% of teens say they’ve had their private conversations posted online for all to see.
  • Over 13% of teens have had false rumors spread about them somewhere online.
  • The situation is already pretty bad, and it continues to grow worse every day like cancer spreading through the body. Internet Bullying is turning millions of kids and their families into helpless victims of online harassment.
  • This sad story is being repeated in homes all over the world, so let’s not let yours be the next.

 

Today’s Parents Are Definitely Struggling To Keep Track Of Their Kids, Especially Their Online Activities!

  • Today’s kids need you to check up on them every once in a while, and to make sure they’re following your rules. Ultimately, it’s the parents who must make absolutely sure that their kids are not at risk from anonymous online tormentors and intrusive, harmful digital technology.
  • Most parents are clueless when it comes to implementing parental control measures and choosing from all the different kinds of monitoring options that could help them.
  • Stressed out parents like yourself have little patience to learn how to use a complicated program or iron out nagging technical problems.
  • Busy parents have very little time to devote to supervising all their kids activities and they need an easy to use system that keeps track of everything for them.
  • You don’t want to have to spend a small fortune in order to set up the kind of solution that best suits your family.

 

Parents Are Not Being Given The Right Information To Know What Cyber Bullying Really Is… Or What To Do About It!

There are several different types of cyber bullying. You’ve got to be able to analyze the situation quickly and then figure out exactly what’s going on. Only then can you apply the right strategy to deal with it effectively.

  • Most people are unfamiliar with all the various tricks and tools available to today’s bullies. There’s many different ways a cyber bully can hurt your child, without leaving bruises or a bloody nose.
  • Parents don’t know if or when they should get directly involved. Yes, there may be occasions when your kids are overwhelmed and you’ll need to do more than just offer your advice.
  • Most parents aren’t able to tell which solution needs to be applied to a particular cyber bully problem. Different situations demand different approaches, so parents need to be able to make the right decision and apply the strategy that best fits the current problem.
  • Most parents couldn’t tell you if the strategy they are employing against a cyber bully is having the desired effect. They don’t know the specific signs to look for that indicate a child’s problem has been resolved successfully.

 

Most Parents Have No Idea How To Work With Their Kids To Combat Online Bullying, Before It Gets Any Worse!

  • It’s no secret that very few parents actually get involved in their child’s education. There’s never enough time to devote to that, but these days it’s vitally important to take this necessary step. You’ve got to learn how to convey all your instructions clearly and concisely so that everyone is on the same page. The results you can get from doing this will be more than worth the effort. It’s a shame that so few parents know exactly how to achieve this.
  • Most parents simply don’t know how to make kids understand the rules of responsible conduct and acceptable online behavior. They haven’t yet learned how to lay it all out in plain terms so that kids are clear on what is expected of them.
  • Even parents who are aware of this threat are finding it difficult to get their kids to stick to the rules. They won’t follow along with you unless they know that you have a strategy that they can work with – one that keeps them safe and gives them the freedom they want.
  • As in most families, getting your kids to open up about their experiences can seem impossible, especially concerning online harassment. It can be very difficult to get them to disclose their true feelings and thoughts on this issue. Most kids have learned how to keep all the evidence and their emotions hidden from their parents and teachers.
  • Sadly, even if they become aware of a problem, most parents aren’t able to give kids the confidence or the skills they need to handle all of the most common internet bullying situations on their own.

 

Many Parents Don’t Know The First Thing About The Technology That’s Putting Today’s Kids In Harm’s Way!

Technology helps make our world a better, safer place to live, but it can also be quite dangerous when it’s used for cyber bullying. Today’s parents are just now becoming aware of the risks their kids are being exposed to, and many are wondering how to stay on top of it all. To make things worse, there always tends to be changes (updates) to the tools and technology used for email, text messaging, online chatting, web surfing, etc. It can be daunting to say the least. But as a parent, you realize that you can’t afford to let your guard down while this danger is lurking in your own home. You also realize that you can’t afford to ignore these online threats any longer, and it’s now become time for you to do something about all this.

  • Yes, it’s getting hard to keep up with all the newest gadgets and the risks that come with the latest technology. But you’ve got to able to weigh those risks so you can decide whether or not you want your kids to use it.
  • Most parents mistakenly think that they’ve got to master all this technology themselves before they’ll be able to offer their kids the kind of hands-on help they need. They drive themselves insane trying to figure it all out on their own.
  • What many parents desperately need and don’t have is a reliable way to stay on top of it all and help them make sense of what’s out there.

 

Tips for parents

Cyberbullying is everyone’s business and the best response is a pro-active or preventative one. From the outset, parents can reduce the risks associated with Internet use if they engage in an open discussion with their children about their online activities and set up rules that will grow along with them.

  • For younger kids, create an online agreement or contract for computer use, with their input. Make sure your agreement contains clear rules about ethical online behaviour. Media Awareness Network’s Young Canadians in a Wired World research shows that in homes where parents have clear rules against certain kinds of activities, young people are much less likely to engage in them.
  • With small children who visit games sites, rules should deal with online interaction: never provide personal information and don’t share passwords with friends.
  • For teenagers, online social activity is intense. Therefore, this is the time to discuss the nature of your teen’s online interaction and, more specifically, his or her responsible use of Internet. Sexting can easily lead to cyberbullying, particularly if the relationship sours.

Whether your child is a ‘tween’ or a teen, talk to them about responsible Internet use:

  • Teach them to never post or say anything on the Internet that they wouldn’t want the whole world – including you – to read.
  • Talk to them about reaching out to an adult at the first sign of a threat. Don’t take for granted that your child will: only 8 per cent of teens who have been bullied online have told their parents.
  • Chill! Kids refuse to confide in their parents because they fear that once they find out about the cyberbullying, they will take away their Internet or cell phone.
  • Teach your children that what goes on online is everyone’s business. Let them know that action must be taken when faced with cyberbullying. Not reporting it is tantamount to approving it.
  • … and, of course, set the example with your own ethical online behaviour.

Take action if your child is being bullied online:

  • Watch out for signs that your child is being bullied online – a reluctance to use the computer or go to school may be an indication.
  • If the bully is a student at your child’s school, meet with school officials and ask for help in resolving the situation.
  • Report online bullying to your Internet or cell phone service provider. Most companies have Acceptable Use Policies (AUPs) that clearly define privileges and guidelines for those using their services, and the actions that can be taken if those guidelines are violated. They should be able to respond to reports of cyberbullying over their networks, or help you track down the appropriate service provider to respond to.
  • Report incidents of online harassment and physical threats to your local police. Some forms of online bullying are considered criminal acts. For example: under the Criminal Code of Canada, it is a crime to communicate repeatedly with someone if your communication causes them to fear for their own safety or the safety of others.
  • It’s also a crime to publish a “defamatory libel” – writing something that is designed to insult a person or likely to injure a person’s reputation by exposing him or her to hatred, contempt or ridicule.

Parents should also teach their kids how to react to an online bully:

  • Stop: leave the area or stop the activity (i.e. chat room, online game, instant messaging, social networking site, etc.).
  • Block the sender’s messages. Never reply to harassing messages.
  • Talk to an adult. If the bullying includes physical threats, tell the police as well.
  • Save any harassing messages and forward them to your Internet Service Provider (i.e. Hotmail or gmail). Most service providers have appropriate use policies that restrict users from harassing others over the Internet – and that includes kids!

 

Suggestions For Parents When Dealing With Bullying

By Brenda High, Director, Bully Police USA –for more information on this article please check out the website www.jaredstory.com

 

Online Bullying or Cyberbullying

If your child is being bullied online, copy EVERYTHING.  Save all emails or instant-message conversations.

You may feel that you cannot do anything about online bullying because you cannot find the cyberbully.  This may not always be true.  Computer specialists can track down internet provider addresses of offending websites, and there are computer whizzes that are making a living off fines collected from email spammers.   Some police departments have hired these specialists to work in their criminal investigation departments and a good computer and internet investigator is in high demand.  If your son or daughter is getting threatening email, your local police department may be able to help or lead you to a private investigator with computer skills.  If the emails are terrorist type threats, report this immediately to the police, who will then report it to the F.B.I.

 

Parents sign a service agreement when they sign up for internet services

Here are some examples of service agreements with internet providers and/or hosts to websites, (i.e. AOL, MSN, XO, Earthlink, etc.)

WebPages – By applying to register a domain name, or by asking us to maintain or renew a domain name registration, you hereby represent and warrant to us that (a) the statements that you made in connection with such application for registration, maintenance, or renewal are complete and accurate; (b) to your knowledge, the registration of the domain name will not infringe upon or otherwise violate the rights of any third party; (c) you are not registering the domain name for an unlawful purpose; and (d) you will not knowingly use the domain name in violation of any applicable laws or regulations. You agree and acknowledge that it is your responsibility to determine whether your domain name registration infringes or violates someone else’s rights…

 

YOU REPRESENT THAT, TO THE BEST OF YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND BELIEF, NEITHER THE REGISTRATION OF THE DOMAIN NAME YOU HAVE APPLIED FOR NOR THE MANNER IN WHICH IT IS INTENDED TO BE OR IS DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY USED INFRINGES THE LEGAL RIGHTS OF A THIRD PARTY.

 

How law enforcement can get your information – …may disclose personal information about Visitors or Members, or information regarding your use of the Services or Web sites accessible through our Services, for any reason if, in our sole discretion, we believe that it is reasonable to do so, including: to satisfy laws, such as the Electronic Communications Privacy Act, regulations, or governmental or legal requests for such information; to disclose information that is necessary to identify, contact, or bring legal action against someone who may be violating our Acceptable Use Policy or other user policies; to operate the Services properly; or to protect our Members.

The parents of students who are doing the bullying may be liable for the emotional damages caused by their child to another child.  If the cyberbullys’ parents know what is going on (or had received a letter of complaint), they have “knowledge and notice” of harmful activity.  The parents are paying for the telephone bill and internet charges into their home – they are legally responsible for the acts of their children while on the computer and in their care.  Parents can be sued for damages.

Inform your school administrators about the cyberbullying your child is experiencing.  If cyberbullying happens on school time or with school computers, schools come under the “knowledge and notice” rule.   If, while a child is being cyberbullied, he/she is threatened to be “beat up” or assaulted while they are in school, the schools must take responsibility for activities that follow a child from their home to their school.

“I was just reading through http://www.jaredstory.com/bullying_whattodo.html … and I thought I’d pass along some inside information for your section on online bullying. I used to work at a large Canadian ISP owned by Tucows, and part of my job there was to deal with abuse complaints. I was also responsible for much of the early research done by the Canadian Association of Internet Providers (www.caip.ca) on spam and abuse. I left the industry in the late 90′s but I still maintain some contacts in the business.

“Call the ISP, and ask to speak to a customer service manager. Explain the situation and ask them if you will require a court order to identify a bully. We were only too happy to help, but could not release private information without a court order, because of privacy laws. Some ISPs may give you that information freely, but if they give you the bully’s identity without a court order, that identification might get thrown out of court later on, so it is in your own best interest to secure that first.

“The other thing I always told complainants was to be on their 100% best, most courteous behavior no matter what the bully says to them online. I know it isn’t fair to be told you can’t tell a bully what a jerk they are  …but if you are as nasty to them as they are to you, the ISP administrator could decide the exchange is essentially mutual.  I had to do that quite a few times – things had gotten so bad, that it was impossible to tell who had started things, and neither side was prepared to be the first to let it go.  If you are always polite, and insist only that the bully leave you alone, or better yet, do that once and do not respond to them at all, it will be clear who the bully really is.

“There are also technological tools that can help deal with online bullies. Most Instant Messenger programs, and virtually all email and Usenet readers have what we old time Internet folks call “twit filters”. They can be called filters or “rules” in some programs. Look in the help files for them. Just block the bully out. Online, it does not pay to “fight back”. Block them, ignore them, filter them out.

“Where this will not work is when a bully posts threatening or defamatory information on a web page. It is very important that before you complain that you PRINT THE PAGE. The ISP won’t likely keep a copy, nor will they monitor it. That is up to you. Keep it in your “bully binder” where you keep your other documentation. Find the ISP’s “Terms of Service” document – many of them have abuse pages where they post what they will and won’t tolerate. We took down many sites without requiring a court order – because they were threatening or defamatory, they were in clear violation of our TOS.

“You may want to monitor web sites for your child’s name – the search sites, like Google, can be useful for this. Google even has an “alerts” page http://www.google.com/alerts?hl=en that will email you when new pages are posted with keywords you specify … I do not know how comprehensive this is, but it is worth a shot, and it is free. The ISP won’t do this – they don’t have the technology, nor will they ever choose to have it, there is too much liability for them. They rely on people to complain when they find objectionable material, rather than actively seeking it out.

“You may also use tools like http://www.spectorsoft.com/ to monitor your child’s Internet use if you believe that they are being bullied but will not speak up about it. This program, and others like it, will help in capturing every possible instance of online bullying in just about all the different programs your child may use. You might not like the idea of spying on your child, but if you do nothing, the outcome could be far worse.”

 

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