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What Can Be Done To Stop Bullying – Children Responsibility

What Can Be Done To Stop Bullying – Children Responsibility

There are many effective strategies for both teachers and parents who wish to stop bullying. An important starting point is to realize that much bullying occurs without the knowledge of teachers and parents, and that many victims are very reluctant to tell adults of their problems with bullying. They may be ashamed to be a victim, and they are afraid that adults cannot or will not help to resolve the situation. They may have been threatened with retaliation if they tell.

Also, adults must re-examine some of their own beliefs with regard to interpersonal behaviour before they can intervene effectively. Many teachers and parents tell children not to “tattle,” and to resolve their problems themselves. In the bullying situation, though, there is a power imbalance of some kind which ensures that the victim always gets the worst of the interaction. The victim and bully both need intervention in order to stop the pattern.

Some important strategies in stopping bullying are:

  • Providing good supervision for children
  • Providing effective consequences to bullies
  • Using good communication between teachers and parents; providing all children opportunities to develop good interpersonal skills
  • Creating a social context which is supportive and inclusive, in which aggressive, bully behaviour is not tolerated by the majority

Ways to stop bullying

Coping with bullying can be difficult, but remember, you are not the problem, the bully is. You have a right to feel safe and secure. It might be somewhat difficult to modify the child’s violent nature, it is not impossible to do the same. Parents with the help of the school authorities can modify it easily by taking following correct measures and steps.

Give your child the needed affection and love at school as well as home that he deserves naturally.

Parents need to supervise their child continuously and if they find that he is engaged in some suspicious activity, immediately they can talk to him regarding that.

Teachers can make an effort to make children feel comfortable at school. This will help them to approach the teacher easily and have a word with them without any hassle in their difficult times.

The atmosphere at the home should be very friendly and comfortable. They should be given the freedom of speech. The parent-child relationship should be strong enough that the child will speak up easily with the parents any time and about anything.

You need to keep an eye on the type of television shows and movies watched by your kid. If you find them watching any violent movie or show, they will definitely develop the similar attitude.

The social context and supervision at school have been shown to play a major part in the frequency and severity of bullying problems. While teachers and administrators do not have control over individual and family factors which produce children who are inclined to bully, bullying problems can be greatly reduced in severity by appropriate supervision, intervention and climate in a school.

Supervision of children has been found to be of prime importance. Just as low levels of supervision in the home are associated with the development of bully problems in individual children, so too, are low levels of supervision at school, particularly on the playground or schoolyard and in the hallways. Also, the appropriateness of interventions by adults when they see bullying, or are made aware of it are very important.

The social climate in the school needs to be one where there is warmth and acceptance of all students, and one where there are high standards for student and teacher behaviour toward one another. Teacher attitudes toward aggression, and skills with regard to supervision and intervention, partly determine how teachers will react to bullying situations. Curriculum and administrative policies and support are also very important.

 

Bullied Victim Solution #1 – What Can I Do If I’m Being Bullied?

(source: www.canadiansafeschools.com)

Unfortunately bullying won’t just go away on its own. Here are some things you can do that can help the bullying stop:

Where can I get help?

Talk to an adult you trust

It is every adult’s responsibility to help kids stay safe. Unfortunately there are times when some adults won’t believe you if you tell them you or someone else is being bullied, or they will tell you to solve the problem yourself. However there will be times when bullying problems need adult help. If you or someone else is being bullied, make a list of trusted adults you can go to help. If someone is bullying you, you should always tell an adult you can trust. You have a right to be safe and adults can do things to get the bullying stopped. Talk to an adult you can trust. If you find it difficult to talk about being bullied, you might find it easier to write down what’s been happening to you and give it to an adult you trust.

  • a daycare teacher or babysitter
  • a lunchroom supervisor
  • an aunt, uncle or a grandparent
  • another parent
  • another teacher in your school
  • the school guidance counsellor
  • the school principal or vice-principal
  • the school secretary
  • your parents
  • your teacher
  • If you aren’t ready or comfortable going to an adult, find someone you trust to talk to about what is going on. Tell a friend, an older student or a sibling. However, if the situation becomes very serious it’s important that you try and find an adult you trust to help you.

When you ask for help, be sure to clearly describe:

  • Exactly what happened
  • What action you have taken, if any
  • When and how often it has happened
  • Where the bullying took place
  • Who else saw it happen
  • Who was involved

 

Ratting vs. Reporting – There is a big difference between reporting and ratting or tattletaling

Most school playgrounds have unspoken “rules” about going to an adult for help. There rules aren’t written down anywhere, but most kids know that if you go to an adult you will be seen as a “snitch”, “tattletale” or “rat”. Who benefits from these rules? Kids who bully, of course! They want their behaviour to go unreported. They rely on these “rules” to stop you from telling.

When students tattletale, they are often are just trying to get someone in trouble and not looking to solve a problem or help a victim. But when students report, they know they need adult help to solve a problem and are looking for help to make sure that everyone at school is safe. When you report it’s to make the bulling stop, not to get those who are bullying in trouble.

If you see bullying taking place, you might need to support those being bullied or go and report it yourself. You might be afraid, but having the courage to report bullying means you’ve taken your power back from those who bully. Keep telling adults you trust until something is done about it.

Educate your friends. Make a poster to show the difference between ratting and reporting. Ask your teacher if you can share it with the class or over the announcements. The more people know that it is okay to report bullying, the less bullying will occur.

The truth is that bullying will never stop if no one stands up to those who bully, tries to help those being bullied or goes to an adult for help. If you go to an adult and they don’t believe you, find another adult you trust. Promise you will keep looking and asking for help until you find it.

 

How do I take a stand?

Standing up for yourself doesn’t mean fighting back or being aggressive. Instead do your best to STAY CALM and TRY TO APPEAR AS IF THE BULLYING WORDS OR ACTIONS AREN’T HURTING YOU. Look as calm and confident as you can. We know this can be incredibly difficult, but kids bully to get a reaction from of those they are bullying. The more you react, the more they will continue to harass you. When you act assertively (and not aggressively) by telling them to stop or ignoring them and then walking away, over time they will loose interest in bullying you. You may have to do this a few times, but eventually, once they sees they are having no effect on you, not getting attention or that their behaviour is not gaining respect from others, they will stop. You can also do your best to avoid those bullying. Stick with friends who treat you with kindness and respect.

Of course if the bullying becomes physical or the bullying gets to be too much for you to handle on your own GET HELP from an adult.

If you are being bullied by a group of students this can be especially painful. We all want nothing more than to fit in and feel part of a group. Unfortunately in most cases, the more you try to join the group of students that is excluding you, the more they will push back and leave you out. As much as this hurts, again it’s important that you STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. If a group is leaving you out, it may be time to look for new friends.

Find out if there are school-run clubs or activities you can take part in over recess, lunch or after school. Look for another group of students playing together and ask if you can join them. Ask your parents if you can join an after-school club in your community. There are lots of ways to make new friends who won’t make you feel bad.

As with other forms of bullying, by ignoring those who bully, eventually they will stop. Kids treat others meanly to get a reaction and to get attention from their friends and bystanders. Once they see that you no longer care (or at least appear to no longer care) they will stop.

Nobody deserves to be bullied. Even though you may be different others, remember it’s differences that make people interesting. If we were all the same, life would be boring. Each and every student has something to offer. We’re all STARS in our own way!

So if you are being bullied, remember:

  • Stay calm
  • Try to hide your feelings and appear brave
  • Avoid or ignore the bully
  • React assertively (and not aggressively)
  • Stick with good friends
  • However, if the bullying gets worse or you are finding it difficult to manage on your own, no matter how hard you try, you need to GET HELP from a trusted adult.

When you ask for help, be sure to clearly describe:

  • Exactly what happened
  • What action you have taken, if any
  • When and how often it has happened
  • Where the bullying took place
  • Who else saw it happen
  • Who was involved

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