Stalking / Cyberstalking Wife Abuse
Stalking of an intimate partner can take place during the relationship, with intense monitoring of the partner’s activities or it can take place after a partner or spouse has left the relationship. Stalking is unpredictable and should always be considered dangerous and the victim should fear for their safety. Stalking is another form of harassment of another person especially in a way that haunts the person physically or emotionally in a repetitive and devious manner. Stalking can take place at or near the victim’s home, near or in their workplace, on the way to the store or another destination, or on the internet which is called Cyberstalking.
The stalker may be trying to get their partner back or they may wish to harm their partner as punishment for their departure. Stalking can be either by phone, in person, or online. Stalking can end in violence whether or not the stalker threatens violence and can turn into violence even if the stalker has no history of violence. Those around the stalking victim are also in danger of being hurt. For instance, a parent, spouse, or bodyguard who makes the stalking victim unattainable may be hurt or killed as the stalker pursues the stalking victim. If someone is tracking you, contacting you when you do not wish to have contact, attempting to control you, or frightening you, then seek help immediately.
Destructive criticism and verbal abuse: shouting; mocking; accusing; name calling; verbally threatening.
- contacting the victim’s friends, family, co-workers, or neighbours to find out about the victim
- damaging the victim’s home, car, or other property
- following, tracking (possibly even with a global positioning device)
- finding the person through public records, online searching, or paid investigators
- going through the victim’s garbage
- monitoring the victim’s phone calls or computer-use
- repeated phone calls, sometimes with hang-ups
- sending emails; communicating in chat rooms or with instant messaging; Cyberstalking
- sending unwanted packages, cards, gifts, or letters
- suddenly showing up where the victim is, at home, school, or work
- threatening to hurt the victim or their family, friends, or pets
- watching with hidden cameras
What is Cyberstalking?
Cyberstalking may be an additional form of stalking or it may be the only method the abuser employs. Cyberstalking is the use of telecommunication technologies such as the internet or email to stalk another person. Cyberstalking sometimes advances to real stalking and to physical violence. You must treat Cyberstalking seriously and protect yourself. Cyberstalking is deliberate, persistent and personal.
The cyber-stalker methodically finds and contacts the victim. Their messages may be disturbing and inappropriate and the more you protest or respond, the more rewarded the cyber-stalker feels. The best response to cyber-stalking is not to respond to the contact.