Signs of Parent Abuse
Parent Abuse is a form of domestic abuse and is a serious problem which results in physical harm, depression, damage to property, job loss, and family breakdown. It is usually perpetrated by a child in their teens displaying the following behaviour towards you and members of your family.
- A constant refusal to do as been asked (going to bed, coming home, asking friends to leave, cleaning up after themselves, not attending school/college/work) or contribute to the household or participate in normal family activities.
- Belittling parents in front of friends/other family members/public Bullying by text or phone
- Deliberate damaging of property
- Drug/alcohol abuse in the home
- Emotional blackmail
- Stealing money or property or misuse of parents credit cards/phones/computers
- Threats of or actual violence to pets or other children of the household as a way of intimidation
- Threats of and/or physical violence including hitting, punching, kicking, pushing, slapping, biting, hair pulling with or without weapons or objects used as weapons.
- Swearing and name calling
Reasons why Parents do not Report
- You may feel pressured to keep your family together or that by seeking legal action, such as calling the police or taking out a protection order, you are being a bad parent. This is not true. The violence you are experiencing is not your fault and the abuser must be held responsible for their behaviour. We all deserve the right to feel safe all the time.
- That as a parent you need to protect your child
- Shame and guilt – that you have failed as a parent
- That you deserve the abuse as punishment for things that may have happened in the past
- That as a parent, you are responsible for the person your child is today and therefore for the abuse
- That you want the abuse to stop but not the relationship
- Distanced or isolated from other family and friends
- Scared to disclose the abuse or that the abuse should be kept a secret
- Alone – that this doesn’t happen to other parents